For me, doing good things to others are easy! But, doing it with sincerity is the hardest part of all. Sometimes, we "unintentionally" do good deeds because we can't say "no" when people asked for our helps. Although, at the back of our mind, we are just thinking other stuff such as counting the time as time passed by or even, how we wish we are spending time in our room.
Most of the time, we do good deeds to others just to repay their kindness. For those whom we have "bad history" with, tends to be out of our "helping list". We easily say no to this group of people. Yeah! Who want to help those who do not even care of doing what he should during our hard time? Definitely a no, no!
The one that we are closer with will be our top priority than someone that we just knew for seconds.(nah...months). Or even, someone we liked more than others will be our target to help.
Another example is, we help others, thinking that we will be benefited from it in the future. I think this is the worst of all. The benefits are not just in the form of material, but it can be also in the intangible form such as to be more acceptable by others, to have more friends or even to be treated more respectfully by others in the future. If we have the thinking of this at the back of our head. Watch out! We are actually in danger! That's why, I don't like to talk with someone that I respect, because I don't want to be nice to him just so that he will pay more attention to me! But also, I can't talk to him without respect. I'm not that kind of hypocrite!
All of the second thoughts of helping people will alter our real intention!! As a rsult, some of our good deeds won't even be rewarded with pahala. Can you believe that??!!
Mind control is a crucial things in life. I'm trying to control mine!
As a self reminder : Sometimes, we put money inside a donation box because we are ashamed to see all people around us are donating and we don't want to be the only one that did not. Don't bother doing it if you can't keep your intention straight!
Most of the time, we do good deeds to others just to repay their kindness. For those whom we have "bad history" with, tends to be out of our "helping list". We easily say no to this group of people. Yeah! Who want to help those who do not even care of doing what he should during our hard time? Definitely a no, no!
The one that we are closer with will be our top priority than someone that we just knew for seconds.(nah...months). Or even, someone we liked more than others will be our target to help.
Another example is, we help others, thinking that we will be benefited from it in the future. I think this is the worst of all. The benefits are not just in the form of material, but it can be also in the intangible form such as to be more acceptable by others, to have more friends or even to be treated more respectfully by others in the future. If we have the thinking of this at the back of our head. Watch out! We are actually in danger! That's why, I don't like to talk with someone that I respect, because I don't want to be nice to him just so that he will pay more attention to me! But also, I can't talk to him without respect. I'm not that kind of hypocrite!
All of the second thoughts of helping people will alter our real intention!! As a rsult, some of our good deeds won't even be rewarded with pahala. Can you believe that??!!
Mind control is a crucial things in life. I'm trying to control mine!
As a self reminder : Sometimes, we put money inside a donation box because we are ashamed to see all people around us are donating and we don't want to be the only one that did not. Don't bother doing it if you can't keep your intention straight!
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